What do mothers really want for Mother’s Day?

I can’t speak for all mothers but I can tell you what I don’t want for Mother’s Day.

1. The ‘I Heart You’ pendant (or something similar) from the mall jewelry store that I will never wear.  My husband and I made a deal years ago that he would dissuade our kids from ever buying something like this for me.  And I would do the same for him if they every wanted to buy him some ridiculous cartoon or equally stupid novelty tie for Father’s day.

2. Chocolate.  This will go STRAIGHT TO MY ASS PEOPLE!!!  I have been training really hard to have, and keep a good ass.  I don’t need others to sabotage me…I can do that just fine all by myself while I’m PMS-ing.

3. Don’t even think about a puppy.  The kids would think is a great idea because really it’s for them, but you know damn well who will be cleaning up its shit and paying for the vet bills.

4. And not this.  When I want a pedicure, the best part about it is leaving the house to spend an hour somewhere quiet and clean…where no one is asking me for juice.   

 

 5. And I certainly don’t want this.  It looks itchy.

So what do I want for Mother’s Day?  I want it to be ALL ABOUT ME, which is why I’m getting up super early to go run a half marathon.  Twenty one point one kilometres of heart pounding sweat.  This is my way of celebrating motherhood; I want need to know that I’m still tough enough, strong enough and fit enough to put my body to the test.  And seeing my gorgeous kids and husband cheering me on at the finish will make it the absolutely most perfect Mother’s Day ever.

274 comments on “What do mothers really want for Mother’s Day?

  1. I agree with all of those nots – especially about the hour away being the best part of a pedicure! I’m more about pampering my feet than running but I give you so much credit for a half marathon!!! That’s wonderful! Best of luck to you :) Happy mothers day!

  2. As a mom who shares custody 50-50 with my ex (the crazy-making aspects of which comprise the thrust of my latest blog post), all I want for Mother’s Day is…MY CHILDREN — with me!!!

    I am so appreciative of time and attention and the small joys of baking and telling jokes and talking and laughing. I can’t think of a better way to celebrate than simply relishing their presence in my life.

    Congrats on your Mommy-hood — and happy Mother’s Day to you, yours and your copious readers! :)

  3. Well, I’m not going to be running on Mother’s Day. Giving birth was more than enough of a toughness test for me (I’m short, and my 2nd kid was over 10#). However, I laud your sentiment.

    Personally, I like the heart jewelry, but I want any Mother’s Day gift that sparkles to have my kids’ birthstones in it.

    Good luck with your run!

  4. Yeah, ironically, if I could have anything I wanted on mothers day, it would be to NOT be a mother for a day! Ha! – I know that is not going to happen; so I am just going to cross my fingers and hope for some burnt toast, runny eggs, extra sugary tea and sloppily homemade cards when I wake up! ;-)

  5. I’m not a mother yet but I can alteast agree with you that even at my age and stage of life I wouldn’t want any of these things… well, maybe the puppy ;) Thanks for sharing, I enjoyed it!

  6. Love your post and I couldn’t agree with you more :) And with 4 kids under 6 and a husband who is like a 5th child having the day be all about me and have my fiance do everything for them and for me would be the best gift I could ask for :) Even though it’s highly improbable.. One can dream.

    • It’s been years in the making to take a day for me. Not that my family hasn’t been willing to give, but sometimes moms just have to be more assertive with what they need. Hats off to you with 4 kids – Happy Mothers Day!

  7. I got my mum placemats for this year’s Mother’s Day… She climbs mountains to know she’s still “tough enough.” ha
    Good luck on the half-marathon!

  8. I agree with all your nots too! And i have defintely had my fair share of the tacky jewellery! Good luck with the marathon and congrats on being Freshly Pressed! x

  9. LMBO at the itchy lingerie because I have that one from Victoria Secret (different color) and never wear it bc it is itchy! I couldn’t agree more, I just want some peace and quiet and my hubby said, “I got it” so I couldn’t be happier. Best to you on your run, I am an avid runner but I will only go up to a 5k, hehe! HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!!! :)

  10. Its so true. We don’t want big flashy or naff gifts. Special moments in life is what counts. Have a great marathon with your family cheering you on :-)

  11. Good luck on your race! I’m not a mother, but having my husband support me on an important goal like running a half marathon would be a pretty amazing gift.

    Kick some butt!

  12. I agree with most of it – I don’t want a cheesy heart necklace, I would rather get comfortable shoes than a foot spa (I’d rather my feet didn’t ache as much at the end of the day. Besides, who is going to set up the foot spa for me, when I’m barely able to get around for the pain in my feet?), and I’d look ridiculous in lacy lingerie. I could never say no to a dog that needs a home however. What I want for Mother’s Day? To know that what I’ve done has not gone unnoticed. Just to hear that.
    Happy Mother’s Day! Thanks for writing the nice blog entry. I hope you get all that you need and want for the special day.

  13. I’ve already told my husband that if he were to ever buy me that hideous Pandora bracelet or that terrible Open Heart necklace, I’d probably leave him. Luckily, he thinks they are awful too. Who are the people who like these things?

  14. I ask for services because I have enough crap! Give me a mani, pedi, or massage any day! I agree with this whole thing girl! (And it does look pretty ltchy)

  15. Hoorah!! I agree!! (Especially the itchy ‘nightwear’.)
    This made me chuckle – my best present is if the whole family take off for the day and leave me on my own to enjoy peace and quiet!! :)

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  17. Oh gosh, now that I’ve read this list I’m laughing! I got my Mom the pendant and the chocolate when I was a kid. I completely agree with you though, those special days are about your accomplishments! Good luck with the half marathon and Happy Mom’s Day!

  18. Thanks for sharing your pearls of wisdom! I can completely relate to your mother’s day woes. Ever since I became a mom three years ago, I feel slighted on Mother’s Day. I seem to get roped into what others want, because they want to see me and wish me a happy mother’s day. I usually traverse the county visiting each of the mothers in my family, only to get home exhausted. This is so frustrating. This year, I told my mother that I am not driving an hour to sit at her house while she feels obligated to cook a meal. I hardly see her anyway, and I find the whole experience irritating at the least. This year I am staying home, my husband is cooking a brunch and then I am taking the rest of the day to do what I want! I plan to take my mother out to lunch, just the two of us, to celebrate her personally. Here’s to looking forward to mother’s day for a change!!

  19. me…I want to be able to just lock myself in my room, maybe get a cup of coffee and a bite to eat now and then, and totally veg watching movies or read a book. Pampering for me would not to worry about anyone else. Complete shut off for the day. Not sure that running is my thing….feel like that is what I do everyday as it is. Great post and hope you get that magnificent run for all us.

  20. I don’t want a puppy either (I already have my hands full!), but adding that bow tie along with the rose …………………… very tempting ….. but still a no, lol. ;)

    Have a terrific Mother’s Day.

    • I got one once too (not sure where it went) but having my feet immersed in water never seemed to stop the endless request for food/juice/etc. It’s just better to leave and go to the spa.

  21. I gave my parents a puppy for Christmas one year, but at least it wasn’t on Mothers’ Day! (Actually, they both were thrilled — not necessarily the usual reaction, I know.) I hope you have a great run and enjoy your day!

  22. That is an awesome way to spend Mother’s Day! And it should definitely be all about you!!! Every day!!! Came over from Freshly Pressed—congrats!! Great to “meet” you!

  23. Great post!
    Add to that , the 50th bottle of cheap perfume because when you are thirty-something , you do have a somewhat classier taste in perfume and Fantasy by Britney Spears kind of doesn’t make the cut !

    Hope you have a fabulous Mother’s Day and good on ya for doing something for yourself :)

    Cheers !

    • Yes, must add cheap perfume to the list. I used to give my grandma this horrible drug store eau de toilette. After she died, I found the bottles in her closet while cleaning out her house. It made me smile – because she always pulled off a gracious and believable thank you.

  24. I just breathed a sigh of relief when I got to the end of this list…I did not get my mom any of these for Mother’s Day :) good luck on your half marathon and happy mother’s day!

  25. My wife’s mom was willing to accept flowers from their field…even if they were dandelions! Happy Mother’s Day! I wrote two/three poems about the subject…at OUR POETRY CORNER…if you have the time!

  26. I wish you the first place for you marathon ;) , but I think a mother’s day it isn’t enough to celebrate the role of mother and her sacrifice, furthermore the days of year won’t be enough neither!!
    Even if, I send my most greeting for you and also for my lovely mother, not just for the mother’s day but for all your life moments!! :)

  27. My monther is a wonderful monther, what she want for Mother’s Day is that I can go home and stay with her, have a dinner together.
    Hope my mother be young forever.

  28. I agree, and I identify with the damn puppy. My house is over run with pets as it is. I can tell you a nice bottle of wine never hurt. I dont want flowers either, unless they are roses that I can plant. I dont want to clean up dead petels just as i dont want to clean up shit.

    Thanks for giving me something to think about! Wine it is. lol

  29. Great post. Cheers to a great half marathon. My hubby and I just laughed about those ridiculous heart charms. He said he was sure I’d punch him in the balls if he purchased a necklace and matching earrings. (: He knows me so well.

    Here’s to a kick ass Sunday!

  30. I giggled over some of your rants. Anyway, have great Mother’s Day!
    (No, I’m not a mother, just a proud aunt of 7 nieces and nephews from 3 sisters. My partner has 2 adult kids.)

  31. I really don’t want any of that scratchy stuff either. Let me sleep in, and don’t ask me any favors :) Congratulations on being Freshly Pressed!

  32. Mother as in human form or in nature, is always precious and amazing role she plays. So showing love, caring and utmost respect is what all she deserve in this world. I do not think pin pointing a specific day in a year is what she all deserve in a big way.

  33. I’m guiltly of 1 and 4 however my mom did enjoy those gifts. However, I did end up using the pedicure spa thing more than her. I have stepped it up though, last year I bought her train tickets to Paris when she came to visit me.

  34. Marathons are silly, but they’ve been smartly marketed in a way so that people feel like they’re part of the “in-crowd” when they do them. Instead, I’m taking my mom to Starbucks.

  35. Very nice list, I will be passing this one on to my husband. I can’t say I’m up for a half marathon, but I am getting up early to take part in my first ‘fun run’, it’s only 8kms, but it’s a start and I am working my way up from here. I am so looking forward to the quiet of the house tomorrow morning, being up before the kids and hopefully out of the house too. Driving there on my own is also a big plus. But they will be there cheering me on at the finish line and then we’ll go out for breakfast. I don’t think I would come up with a better mother’s day plan. Hope your 1/2 marathon goes well.

    • That sounds fantastic – and 8kms is nothing to sneeze at. Have a great run and enjoy your morning – then you can hint at a spa gift certifcate to heal your aching feet!

    • Yes! I think that was exactly my response when a friend asked me what I wanted. Silence…just beautiful silence. Sometimes I lock myself in the bathroom with a bubble bath and a glass of wine. It doesn’t stop them from pounding on the door to ask for stuff but if I submerge my head I can at least muffle the noise.

      • Exactly. They can brush their own hair – or just go hippie, they can find their own socks and they can nibble on croutons for a day – call it a health fast day!

  36. good for you – all I want for Mother’s Day is not to have to cook. You are so right about the smulzy jewelry and all the crap that is designed to tug at our heartstrings–though I must admit, savvy as I am, they do tug at mine anyway. Good luck on the marathon–I will be thinking of you when I take my two mile walk!
    By the way–I love your sense of humour

  37. I’ve got the heart pendant (don’t wear it yet it reminds me of the love of a little guy who saved up his allowance to buy it), LOVE dark chocolate (and willing to run an extra mile to savor it), pedicures (fancy toes are nice now and then). As for the all about me? Yup–love my family; however, being left alone in my hammock reading a book on a sunny day, hmmm that’s almost as nice as having the whole family around me. That’s a toss up, for sure.
    Happy Mother’s Day–may the course be with you :)
    CricketMuse

    • That is so sweet. The best part about gifts from our kids is the look on their little faces when they watch us open them. Have a great Mothers Day – hope you get to enjoy the hammock for a while.

  38. Itchy #5 has me cracking up! But as a single parent, I would love any gift from my sweeties! Even the puppy!!! Lol. I think it’s an AWESOME gift to yourself (and your family!) to run the half marathon! Feeling strong & healthy & accomplished can only make you a better mother! Happy Mother’s Day :)

    • The only thing worse than itchy lace is feathers. Who the hell thought up tp put feathers on sleepwear? I’d be terrified that the cat would attack me in my sleep. Happy Mothers Day to you too!

  39. And I have been meaning to sign up for my first race for some time now (hmmm, maybe a year :? ) and this post has definitely reminded me of one of the best and most compelling reasons to do so…RIGHT NOW! Thanks for the motivation!

  40. I find that smiling while I run seems to help, if anything the looks from spectators is worth the price of admission. After that it’s one foot in front of the other, and looking past the finish line and not just to it. So instead convince your body you are running a 26.2. In the end, having the family there at the finish….priceless!

    here is some motivational video
    http://wp.me/p1IOxj-6X
    minute 3:15

    be blessed.

  41. I just love your post – honest Mom telling it like she really wants it…GREAT!!!! I just had to share with my friends on Twitter. Also, I like the name of your post – LOL! I’ll Drink to That. I’ve heard many people use this expression, but never thought anyone would use it for their blog. GREAT IDEA!!!! #Two Thumbs Up.

    • Being honest may get me in trouble one day but until then I’ll be as cheeky as I want! Glad you like the name…I say that a lot…maybe more than I should admit to. Thanks for stopping by.

  42. Great post! The pedicure part sure hit home with me! My hubby got me one of those for Christmas one year and I asked him to please return it. Guess what he got me the next year?? Yep, you got it! The same damn thing…

  43. Love this post. I was a single mom and my kids would do some unique things on Mother’s day that didn’t require money (since neither they nor me had any to speak of). One year my son took every small appliance in the house and cleaned them until they looked like shiny new. Another year my daughter and him cleaned the bathroom, calked the bathtub and shined all the faucets as only kids can do. I was in tears at their thoughtfulness.

  44. Good luck with your run – very impressive. I so agree about the chocolates, if everyone knows you’re trying to lose weight, why would they give them? It’s just cruel. And the sexy underwear is such an insult, like saying we are not sexy enough, or at least that’s how I took it when it was given to me. He never made that mistake again!!

    • That is funny. I got dirt for my Birthday one year, but even stranger I actually needed dirt for the garden so it was perfect. And it came with a shiny new wheelbarrow!

  45. I loved the post! In my case, it was my mom who bough the dog, and I ended up looking after it! For mother’s day, we went to breakfast and dinner and let her do her own thing. She had a wonderful day :)
    Happy Mother’s Day to you too!

  46. What do Mom’s really want for Mother’s day? ….that your child in my case, after 19 years of being his mother, demonstrates through his actions and behaviour the values that make family and the greater good loving and purposeful.

  47. Got it yesterday. . .a visit from my daughter whom I had not seen in 7 years and a big hug from my 4-year old granddaughter that now calls me her Grammie! What a great day the Lord hath made!

  48. Hi. I spent the day shredding garden waste and didn’t realise it was mothers day until I read this. My daughter just passed on her way to bed and I said -’hey did you know it was mother’s day?’ – she told me ‘it isn’t !’. As teenagers are always right I didn’t bother to argue. I so agree about the pedicure and the heart. I hate practical presents too.

  49. Your comments made me laugh because of how true they are. You know that mom is always the one to clean up the pet’s poop, take him to the vet and pay the vet;s bills….don’t forget feeding him, giving him water to drink and taking him on walks and taking him out for potty breaks. I agree this gift comes with a price even if the puppy is soooo cute. I feel that when you reach a certain age, you want your day to be peaceful, relaxing and spent with your loved ones. What better time to reflect on my family and my life than Mother’s Day….

  50. Very funny! Guess you said what some of us would love to say but don’t. Happy Mother’s Day to a gut-level honest person! My greatest Mother’s Day gift was two potted hydrangea’s. They are now two HUGE bushes. Beautiful! My garden is my temple, too!

    • There’s something about being in the garden that is so peaceful and so satisfying – a crap today can turn right around just by digging in the dirt for an hour. Hope you got to spend some time yesterday in your garden.

  51. Chocolate? Mmm, that’s difficult. I think I would convince myself that it’s ‘good’ energy. Especially if I were planing to run a marathon…which of course I’m not!

  52. Not being a mother…I can only comment…seems that what most mothers want is to be recognized for being a mother…most of those gifts do not do that. Hopefully, mothers get the recognition they deserve on Mother’s Day!

  53. Happy Mother’s Day! I gifted my mom a Buddha Statue which stands for luck, energy, strength and happiness and at this moment she needed something like this. And I wrote a poem for her. Yesterday I published the poem on my personal blog. From my pupils I got a self-made card.
    But yes, it was also difficult for me to get a great gift! Inspiring blog you have here!

  54. ha ha Love it and how true!! Especially the dig in the crotch or string up the bum undies!! no way are they sexy!! urgh……….hope your half was great- totally relate being a runner myself!! Have to say chocs are good BUT only ones I select as ten i know its worth that hour or so in the gym!! Not some scabby tasting cut price chocs!

    • My husband was disapointed to see my very public denouncement of scratchy lingerie. Poor guy…don’t think he would DARE to buy me something like that ever again. And yes…scrumptious rich dark chocolate is the only way to!

  55. And so, how’d the half marathon go? Congratulations!
    I completely agree with the rest of your ideas but also agree with Mikalee that sometimes it’s just being with the kids doing the everyday stuff but remembering what a gift it is to have the everyday stuff that makes the day amazing! This is also partially me talking myself into LOVING doing my 2 kids’ reports with them all weekend. But I’m truly ok with it tonight! :)

    • Sadly, it just wasn’t my day on the race course. BUT my kids and husband were there and that made it worth every painful step. Ah yes, kids’d projects…those can be not so much fun at times. Fortunately my oldest often likes to help her little sister with her projects. That’s a win/win all around.

      • Ooh, I’ll train my older one to help my younger one! Great Tip! Next race will be better! :) RIght now you may laugh, but you’ll get the itch to run another half!

  56. Happy Mother’s Day!
    Great post! I can agree with all of this…except the marathon. 4 kids in 4 years (and then spending the better part of the last 7 years chasing kids who have split up in 4 different directions…its like they honestly know that “Mum can only catch us one at a time then!”) is enough of a toll on my body. Knowing that I CAN catch them tells me I am still strong! lol

    Good luck with your race! :)

    • It’s ironic isn’t it that for many moms that’s what we want….to just be left alone with a cup of coffee/tea/gin reading a magazine/book/trashy novel without any interruptions. Sigh….

  57. #3 is definitely the best on the list. Pets make awful gifts. Too many people take on pets without knowing fully what they’re getting themselves into. Hence, so many pets become abandoned (or maybe “surrendered” is a better term) annually. The worst is forcing someone to take on something that they weren’t ready to get themselves into. We have enough problems with the population of abandoned pets as is… no need to work harder to increase those numbers!

    • Agreed…we have fostered many of those unwanted pets over the years and some have never left. Our house has become a zoo – dogs, rabbits, cats, hamsters…all rescues and I’m sure there will be more.

  58. I’m so glad you were Freshly Pressed so I could find you! Love your blog, your attitude, and your spunk. Personally, I’d take a puppy for Mother’s Day, but only bc I’m a sucker for a cute face & puppy breath. To all the other crap, however, I say no thanks. I too think the best way to spend the day is sweating then getting a pedicure after a hard workout, then being too tired & too pampered to get anyone any juice.

  59. I couldn’t stop laughing at your post, as these are things that my mother has said throughout the years…we never did get that dog that I just KNEW she would love! How was the marathon?

  60. Excellent! I always thought that chocolate for Mother’s Day may be delicious, but is just kind of a cop-out.
    When I was little, my mom used to tell me, “All I want today is peace and quiet; please don’t fight with your sister today.”
    That was one of the most difficult gifts ever.

  61. Well, I don’t mind chocolate. Usually we split it among everyone, so it’s only a couple pieces. Not that many calories.

    I do agree about most of it, though not always for those reasons. I would never waste my time on a pedicure. I’ve never had one and have no desire to ever have one. The idea is just so bizarre to me, but I know lots of women love them. I just don’t understand it. I had a manicure once and found it one of the weirdest experiences of my life. I left wondering why I paid money for that. I’m just not a manicure/pedicure sort of woman, I guess.

    And I’d never do a marathon, half-marathon, or anything like that. I walk for exercise, but I don’t run.

    I don’t mind the frilly negligee except that’s a gift from a husband to a wife, not a child to a mother. It’s just not appropriate for the occasion to me. For an anniversary, it would be fine. Though, somewhat of a waste of money because of how fast it would be on the floor once my husband saw me in it.

    What I want for any Mother’s Day is a clean house that got that way due to someone else’s efforts instead of mine.

  62. Moments of peace. That is what I savored on mother’s day. That and my daughter’s homemade card. There is nothing better. Congrats on the run. I hope it went well. What an awesome accomplishment.

  63. I’m no mother… hell I’m not even female… but maybe I should be celebrating mother’s day like you… haha I could use the exercise and chocolate-avoidance. XD Anyway, I hope you had a fantastic mother’s day! Is there any jewelry you WOULD accept?

    • I’m not a big jewelry person but I do think a nice watch is a good gift. I’m not talking a Cartier or anything like that…just a nice looking good quality watch. It’s also practical!

  64. AMEN!!!!!!! Yep I got a set of great knives…for the kitchen….because my 20 something sons get mad at my knives……THEY ARE JUST KNIVES and I am not a professional cook….I am a mother of 4 and I have done well for 30 years with crappy knives…if I had wanted knives I would have bought them!!!!!! UGH! I agree….for it to be all about me would be cool.! My daughter did get me a day at hair salon, new cut and color…but she is a girl, doesnt count! She knows better! good post! preacherswifeintheknow.wordpress.com

    • Someone to clean the house seems to be a common wish by moms commenting on this post. house cleaning companies should get on it and do ad campaigns and specials for Mothers Day…I don’t know any mom who would say no to that.

    • I would LOVE a whole day out! Leave the house in the morning after an uninterrupted shower and do whatever I feel like all day long!!! Lunch, shopping, spa…heaven

  65. A friend and I spent 3 blissful hours running in the woods to start our mother’s day. Forget breakfast in bed! It’s my party and I’ll run if I want to.

  66. Brilliant post, simply loved it! Most moms are so giving (and I am sure you are too) that they just forget to live their own lives…I’m not a mother yet but remembering the thousand sacrifices my mom used to make, while we screamed at her to enjoy her own life! Only at 55 has she started doing that.

    • Just before I turned 40, I learned to stop asking permission to do what I wanted. As moms we tend to ask ‘if it would be all right if we go out/take a nap/have a bath/go to the gym’ instead of just saying, “I’m going out for a run”. Life changed for me and my family (for the better) as soon as I stopped asking and just did!

  67. It’s all so true :)

    My hubby gave me a teddy holding a heart with ‘I love Mum’ on it on behalf of my baby son for mother’s day. I adore it, but it has been adopted by my boy who loves to dribble on it and throw it about. But that’s what soft toys are for, I suppose!

    Regards.

    Nicola

    • That is very cute. My mom got a gold heart pendent one year (from my dad I think) and my little brother bit it, putting dents in it with his 4 baby teeth. She wore it for years and years and then one day lost it. She was absolutely devastated – not because she lost the jewelry, but because she lost the imprint of my brother’s tiny little teeth.

  68. How true the statements reflect my feelings. I ran in a 5k but long to participate in a longer one. I will do it for me! To have your family there to cheer you along is the best thing ever. I wanted to be spoiled a little…but alas…I started dinner early that morning before heading to church. “I was scheduled to sing!” I have four boys, three of which live at home, and received some perfectly hilarious cards that fit me to a tee and a beautiful necklace and earring set from one of the boys with a little help from daddy. This was his first time buying something like this and the sentiment behind it brought tears to my eyes.
    Thank you for sharing…and you are so right…Chocolate is not my friend but I just can’t bear to say goodbye.
    Peach State

    • A run (or any workout) is vital to the mind, body and soul for that reason – it’s all about you. Even a walk is refreshing and makes for a better day. You know what they say – Happy wife. Happy life!!! PS. I sneak chocolate ALL the time!

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